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Whose Body is it Anyway?

I was working away at home and through my mind drifted the excellent dinner I had enjoyed the previous evening. My sister is an amazing cook and knows I am trying to nourish myself in better ways. She offered me the smaller piece of filet which I accepted and it was actually more than I needed. As I worked, I thought well, I should ask her to just give me the smaller portions all the time, not just offer them. But, whoa, wait a minute. Why should I be looking to her to control my portions? Why can’t I just stop when I’ve had enough? Is it because it’s too tasty and I don’t have the willpower? Maybe it’s because I was in the habit of cleaning up my plate no matter what.

Well, yes it was tasty, but had I listened to my body, I would have stopped at least ¾ of the way through that meal. I have found, that once I am starting to feel full, the food still tastes good but not as good as at the beginning of the meal and not worth stuffing myself for.

Voices

Also yes to it being a habit to clean up my plate. “if you don’t finish your dinner, you won’t get dessert”, “if you don’t finish your dinner, you’ll have what’s left for breakfast”, “you took it, you eat it”.

Does any of that sound familiar to you? Is that the voice you hear when there is still food on your plate? Is it your voice - definitely not, at least in the beginning.

When we were babies, we just stopped when we were full and let someone know when we were hungry. When we were children and if not interfered with, we stopped when we were full and walked away from any food left over.

What happened?

Echoes from the Past

Whose voice are we hearing (and obeying)? I can remember my parents threatening me with no dessert and leftovers for breakfast, so that’s part of the voice. Where did that voice come from for them? Perhaps it was their parents, especially if they lived through some very hard times perhaps a famine, a severe economic depression, poverty. Perhaps it was passed along by their parents. Who knows how far and how deep that little voice has traveled.

That voice is not so strong on its own. It’s just that we have accepted it as our own and integrated it into our minds and bodies so we hardly know it’s there. Not a strong voice but a strong habit.

Whose Body Is It?

Whose body is it anyway? Are you going to let your great great grandmother tell you that you have to finish more food than is healthy for your body? Are you going to listen to the threats of a person who came from a time of fear and lack and has unwittingly passed that along to the next generations – yes, that’s generations in plural.

It’s your body, yours and only yours. Who puts food into your body, you and only you. Whose little voice are you going to listen to? No ones. You are going to listen to the signals from your body. When you hear the little voices from past generations, just notice what they are saying. That’s all. Just notice them and recognize that they are just echoes from the past and have no say about what you eat in the present. Just notice those voices and have some compassion for the suffering that produced them.

Eat slowly, enjoy your food, stop when you think you’ve had enough. Put your utensils down and pause for a few minutes. If you are still hungry eat a little more but not just because it’s there. If you are afraid of wasting food, wrap it up, put it away and have it the next day.

Whose body is it? It’s yours and it’s yours for life.

Lingerie – what does that mean to you? Do you think of white cotton bras and full briefs, or perhaps a frilly baby doll or if you’re really daring, maybe you could imagine yourself in an elegant corset.

Oh girl, it’s time for you to spread your wings and get out of those cotton briefs!

Leather lingerie is the ultimate in sex appeal. You feel confident, energized and you become an irresistible magnet.

Ok, so maybe the metal-studded, crotchless, cupless leather corset is just a little too much  for a first step. I can understand that.

So, start small and inevitably you will find yourself becoming more daring and never looking back.

1^st step – take stock of what lingerie you already have –  I mean sexy lingerie – not your  nylon nightgown or sturdy bra. What have you got in the way of thongs – a real must for any wardrobe – sexy, yes, but functional too.

Functional you say? How can lingerie be functional other than creating the desired passion in your partner (not to forget the positive effect it has on you)?

Thongs, as mentioned, are a must to stop the dreaded panty line from being the first thing that is noticed about your outfit. Corsets and teddies can be worn so they actually show in public! Oh yes, it’s true.  A corset can look stunning with the right skirt or pants for clubbing or an evening out or under a jacket for a more subtly seductive effect. Leather corsets or teddies can be worn like this casually, for more dressy occasions or even to the office. But more on the functionality of lingerie another time.

Now back to leather – you can’t distract me from my topic that easily : )

You were taking stock of your current lingerie.

Hopefully, it includes these basic sexy items – thongs, garters and stockings, a baby doll to suit your personal taste, and beautiful bras of various styles.

You can start your leather collection by adding a slinky leather garter belt and some sexy stockings.  Can you imagine what you would feel like walking into the office wearing a leather garter belt and stockings? I am making the assumption (and I could be wrong) that you are the only one who knows what you’ve got snugly wrapped around your hips – that’s what can give you such a feeling of confidence and allure. An even better plan is to let your lover know that you are wearing this outfit – maybe even give him/her a little flash and let them think about it all day….

It’s time to quit being a timid flower and fully open to experience the beauty, allure and confidence that is a natural part of you.

Practice loving yourself every day, whether you wear plus size lingerie or a practically invisible Brazilian thong.

What Do You Mean Love Myself?

Loving yourself means being kind, patient and nuturing to your own body and soul. Treat yourself like you would treat your best friend. If they started complaining about their weight you most likely wouldn’t tell them that yes, they are fat and what’s the use in even trying. No, you would be their personal cheerleader, advisor, confidante and support team.

What’s The Point?

When you can love and appreciate yourself, wonderful things can happen for you and those around you. You can bring love, health and joy into your life.
Okay, you may feel you already love yourself. That’s great - I’d love to get some of your perspectives on this subject – please give me some feedback.
But, what if you don’t really like yourself? For instance, you think you’re too fat, you’re too thin, you get depressed or anxious or irritable and take it out on someone else.  How can you even start to appreciate who you really are?

How to Begin

Start by doing things for yourself that are loving and kind. Perhaps, give yourself time to luxuriate in a sensual bubble bath, take yourself to a movie you’ve been waiting for, enjoy receiving a free makeover at the cosmetic counter, add more nutritious food to your meals, forgive yourself for whatever you think is necessary, start complimenting yourself instead of automatically listening to that critical (unfair) little voice in your head, slip into some sexy lingerie and dance around the room – life really isn’t all that serious.
Start noticing that critical voice in your head – you might be surprised at how that little dickens is constantly trying to bring you down. When you look in the mirror what does it say? Does it pick out your (so called) flaws, tell you that you are unattractive, stupid, useless and unworthy of love? Can you instead catch that voice and tell it to get lost and replace it with something more realistic like – “hello gorgeous, you sure have beautiful lips, look at those shining eyes, my  those curves are tempting”. It may sound silly but it really does make a difference.
When I was younger and felt unattractive and anxious about social situations my sister would say - just walk in there like you’re the Queen of Sheba (she didn’t actually say the Queen of Sheba – she said like Queen Sh**t) – it’s not always easy to begin with, but it works.

Yeah, But I Don’t Believe It

Okay don’t believe, but, fake it ‘til you make it. It doesn’t matter at this moment, if you truly believe it. Just by starting out with the intention of doing some of these things, you are saying to yourself, yes, I do have something valuable to offer, I know who I am inside and if someone else can’t recognize that, it’s their loss – not mine.
I am worthy, loveable, intelligent, kind and very fortunate are the people who get to call me friend.

Love yourself just as you are because you are perfect right now (reminds me of  Bridget Jones diary) – but, oh, so true!

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