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Whose Body is it Anyway?

I was working away at home and through my mind drifted the excellent dinner I had enjoyed the previous evening. My sister is an amazing cook and knows I am trying to nourish myself in better ways. She offered me the smaller piece of filet which I accepted and it was actually more than I needed. As I worked, I thought well, I should ask her to just give me the smaller portions all the time, not just offer them. But, whoa, wait a minute. Why should I be looking to her to control my portions? Why can’t I just stop when I’ve had enough? Is it because it’s too tasty and I don’t have the willpower? Maybe it’s because I was in the habit of cleaning up my plate no matter what.

Well, yes it was tasty, but had I listened to my body, I would have stopped at least ¾ of the way through that meal. I have found, that once I am starting to feel full, the food still tastes good but not as good as at the beginning of the meal and not worth stuffing myself for.

Voices

Also yes to it being a habit to clean up my plate. “if you don’t finish your dinner, you won’t get dessert”, “if you don’t finish your dinner, you’ll have what’s left for breakfast”, “you took it, you eat it”.

Does any of that sound familiar to you? Is that the voice you hear when there is still food on your plate? Is it your voice - definitely not, at least in the beginning.

When we were babies, we just stopped when we were full and let someone know when we were hungry. When we were children and if not interfered with, we stopped when we were full and walked away from any food left over.

What happened?

Echoes from the Past

Whose voice are we hearing (and obeying)? I can remember my parents threatening me with no dessert and leftovers for breakfast, so that’s part of the voice. Where did that voice come from for them? Perhaps it was their parents, especially if they lived through some very hard times perhaps a famine, a severe economic depression, poverty. Perhaps it was passed along by their parents. Who knows how far and how deep that little voice has traveled.

That voice is not so strong on its own. It’s just that we have accepted it as our own and integrated it into our minds and bodies so we hardly know it’s there. Not a strong voice but a strong habit.

Whose Body Is It?

Whose body is it anyway? Are you going to let your great great grandmother tell you that you have to finish more food than is healthy for your body? Are you going to listen to the threats of a person who came from a time of fear and lack and has unwittingly passed that along to the next generations – yes, that’s generations in plural.

It’s your body, yours and only yours. Who puts food into your body, you and only you. Whose little voice are you going to listen to? No ones. You are going to listen to the signals from your body. When you hear the little voices from past generations, just notice what they are saying. That’s all. Just notice them and recognize that they are just echoes from the past and have no say about what you eat in the present. Just notice those voices and have some compassion for the suffering that produced them.

Eat slowly, enjoy your food, stop when you think you’ve had enough. Put your utensils down and pause for a few minutes. If you are still hungry eat a little more but not just because it’s there. If you are afraid of wasting food, wrap it up, put it away and have it the next day.

Whose body is it? It’s yours and it’s yours for life.

Do you think your plus size leather corset can only be worn in private?

Think again.

As I mentioned in Plus Size Leather and the Timid Flower, leather corsets, bustiers and even great BBW leather bras can be worn casually or on more dressy occasions, under a jacket or alone, it’s up to you.

Depending on your lifestyle, you might try some of the great leather collars and cuffs available to add some unique touches to your look.

You ask – won’t people think, I’m masculine or Goth or something: Definitely not. Goth is not just how you dress but a culture including other characteristics in fashion, makeup, music and lifestyle to mention a few.

Too masculine? I think not. Wearing a black leather collar does not mean you have to wear a biker outfit with it. For example, when you go clubbing, match your leather corset with a great plain or studded collar. Perhaps start with a classy leather wrist band.

Remember though, whatever you’re wearing, walk tall and know you look incredible.

Sensuality isn’t always sheer nighties and lacy undergarments, sometimes adding some BBW leather can be equally sensual.

Studded collars, undergarments and leather costumes can switch up the normal vanilla concept of sexiness and vary intimate encounters.  Depending on where you shop, you’ll find that you have a variety of choices to pick from based on what you and your partner desire.

Plus size lingerie ranges in style from sheer slips to corsets.  Caring for the latter can be a bit meticulous.  Here are some easy to remember tips:It is important to always wear something underneath your corset to absorb your body oils and sweat.

Do not allow other people to wear your corset! By the time your corset is broken in, it has molded to your exact body shape. Letting others wear your corset will warp it.

Your garment is dry clean only, though Dryel would not be an acceptable substitute as the dryer will warp the corset.

This garment must never be submersed in water in any way. The stays are made of metal, and the stays at your hips are made of spiral coils that cannot be coated in protective plastics.
After you have worn your corset a few times, you may notice that it has taken on a bit of an odor. It is a good idea to air your corset out by hanging it over the back of a chair, door or cupboard. It’s even better with a fan.

When putting your corset away, it will be tempting to roll it up and toss it in a drawer. Rolling your corset will result in warping, so just don’t do it.